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Monday, 27 July 2009

Your public speaking confidence is determined by your inner voice

The vast majority of individuals would love to improve their public speaking confidence.

Am I right?

Most of us are normally overcome with fear when we have to speak publicly and that fear is cause by our own lack of confidence.

And that confidence drainer is our own little voice inside our heads.

You know the one. That inner voice inside your head which tells you off or stops you trying something new or reminds you to call someone or tells you to have some chocolate!

So what does your inner voice say when you are just about to go onto the stage and publicly speak?

Does it say “This is gong to be fun – I can’t wait to start” or does it say “You can’t do this – you are going to look so stupid”.

Which one? Honestly?

How often has your inner voice stopped you trying something new?

How often do you let your inner voice talk you out of doing something?

Now imagine if your inner voice, which is stopping you moving forward, was a real person with a real voice. So you are just about to give a presentation to an audience made up of 100 senior staff and your best mate says, “You are going to mess this one up. You are going to forget your words, you are going to be tongue-tied.

Someone will ask a question and you won’t know the answer. Don’t do it, it is not worth the suffering or pain”.
How’s that make you feel? Your best mate has just ridiculed you. Tell me, they would not be your best mate for long, if they really did that.

That is exactly what you are allowing your own inner voice to do to you every single day.

Why?

You are in control. In fact, just listen to your inner voice for the next hour and see how many negatives things it is telling you. Make a note of them – write them down.

You will be amazed how many times your inner voice is telling you negative things.

You need to stop the negative comments now.

You need to turn them around and make your inner voice talk to you in a positive way.

The next time you are about to go on stage, let your voice say to you:

“The audience is going to love you. You are going to be funny, charismatic, engaging. You are going to wow the audience with your knowledge.”

By controlling your inner voice and making it positive, it can only improve your public speaking confidence.

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